The idea of this post, is to commit to some self-care every day for the entire month of January. Already, I’m starting the new year committing to self-care challenges and haven’t successfully completed day one. At this time as I type this post – there’s four minutes left till the day – then we’ll be off to a new challenge.
This will be my year. We repeat it, an affirmation, a determination to control all that the year will bring. But do we leave ourselves enough wiggle room, and do we do it with our own best interests at heart? Or do we build it around the expectation of what we think we should be aiming for, or what kind of person we think we should be?
If you’ve ever engaged in conversation with me, you’d know that I enjoy the smell of peppermint so much that I chew peppermint gum, keep starlights in my pocketbook and desk (reminder that I need to refill my bowl), and use a Vick’s Nasal Inhaler during the day and at night to relax my mind.
When I’m low on my Vick’s, I’ll drop a few drops of peppermint or eucalyptus essential oils in my air diffuser and continue to get similar calming effects.
Living with a love or approval addiction is a very hard way to live. You must constantly make sure you say the right thing, do the right thing, and look right, to get the needed love and approval. Your feelings are on a roller coaster from feeling the wonderful feelings that come from getting your love or approval fix to feeling the despair that comes when you supply the source of your love and approval – shuts down, gets angry or judgmental, or goes away.